Have you ever been around someone that causes you to feel completely exhausted when they leave? Or someone who brings about a nauseous or dizzy feeling when they are around? If so, then you have experienced your energy being drained by an Energy Vampire! An energy vampire will suck you dry of all of your vibrant energy and leave you feeling completely spent. Most energy vampires are not even aware that they are zapping other people’s energy, but nevertheless, it will still leave you empty and depleted. How can we protect our energy from being siphoned by these energy vampires? I have researched this question and have finally come up with several ways in which to prevent this psychic attack.
How to prevent energy vampires from stealing your energy?
- Realize they exist. Most people who are in relationships with energy vampires are empaths. We empaths believe that everyone is good and often will stay in a toxic relationship too long while making excuses for an energy vampire. We don’t want to admit they are really in it for themselves and lack empathy so they don’t care about you. Ouch! Realizing that there are some people who are not good will help you protect yourself.
- Keep a gut instincts journal. Empaths are highly intuitive. But, after many years with an energy vampire, you can lose the ability to believe what you feel. One way you can start to re-trust your gut is to keep a Gut Instincts Journal. Pay attention to what your gut says about a person. For example, does the person engage in risky behavior or threaten self-injury? Does he or she lie, cheat, or have recurring problems with the law? Then keep track of how situations play out. Even if your vampire is compelling and charming, don’t talk yourself out of your gut instincts about a person. Be sure to pay attention to how they treat ALL of the people they encounter, such as a waitress at your local restaurant, or an entry-level employee.
- Find a reality-check friend. Be sure to have a clearheaded and trustworthy contact with “vampire radar” whom you can reach out to when you are feeling uncertain. Often this is a good friend who knows you well and who hasn’t been taken in by your vampire. Call this person whenever you’re feeling unsure about a situation.
- Put yourself first. Energy vampires will fight for control. They can also be angry and manipulative, or often passive aggressive. And, they are great at “splitting behaviors” – or pitting one person against the next. When you encounter these qualities, take a step back (or out of the room or building) and remember that you were meant to live a joyful life in which your needs and feelings count too. Then, pledge allegiance to yourself. You can say “I pledge allegiance to myself and to my soul for which I stand. I honor my goodness, my gifts, and my talent. I commit to remaining loyal to myself from this moment forward for all of my days.”
- Pat yourself on the back regularly. Most empaths give others far too much credit and deflect praise for their own contributions which we tend to downplay. Instead, pat yourself on the back regularly for who you are and for what you do well.
- Say “no.” One of the best ways to protect yourself is to minimize your interactions with a vampire. You can do this by becoming “empowered in the negative.” In other words, learn how to turn people down. Saying “no” takes practice. And, it’s all about compassion, which as an empath, you have plenty of. If you find it too difficult to say “no” at first, start by saying, “I’ll get back to you.” The main thing you need to master is stopping the knee-jerk “yes.”
- Get support. When you finally “get it” about energy vampires, you will need support – and not just from your reality-check friend. A psychotherapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse recovery can be invaluable in these situations. There are also narcissistic abuse recovery groups. If you haven’t completely split from your vampire relationship, find a couples therapist who knows how to deal with character-disordered individuals.
Empath’s are highly attuned to the energy and feelings of those around them, and that can be somewhat overwhelming at times. However, there are some simple techniques that can be done to protect our energy from being penetrated by outside negativities. These techniques are simple and quick and very effective especially if practiced on a regular basis.
In the mornings before you start your day, take a few minutes to sit quietly and take a few deep breaths to bring your awareness to the present. In your mind, or out loud, say I am releasing any and all energies that are not here for my highest and best good and I send them back to the Universe with love and light. Take a few more deep breaths while allowing all of the negative energies to flow back to the Universe. Now, in your mind, imagine a beautiful, bright, white ball of light hovering right above your head. Imagine this beautiful, bright, white ball of light slowly raining down over your body. Starting with the top of your head, and flowing gently down the sides of your face and down to your neck. Then, it envelopes your shoulders, back and chest while slowly flowing down your arms, hips and stomach areas. Imagine it continuing down your legs and encircling the bottoms of your feet creating an unpenetrable bubble like shield of protection.
You are now ready to start your day. Try to remember to do this every morning and you should start to notice that you are no longer taking on other people’s energies throughout the day. This also allows you to become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings without having to determine if those feelings are yours or someone elses.
Emotional blockages are created by past negative experiences, unresolved emotions, self-defeating behaviours/patterns and self-limiting beliefs which are counter intentions that contribute to self-sabotage. They act as a defense mechanism to deal with deep emotional pain experienced in traumatic, destructive, and dysfunctional situations ranging from the loss of a loved one, betrayal, abuse, rejection, and so on.
How emotional blockages manifest in your life
Unfelt or suppressed emotions like anger, resentment, and guilt are dense emotions and block our energy. The emotional body is magnetic and holds on to suppressed emotions until you allow them to move, by expressing them. Unless released these emotions hinder you from raising your vibrational frequencies and can result in physical manifestations like chronic pain, anxiety, migraines, ulcers, and other forms of illness. A healthy emotional body vibrates and attracts light, which is what raises consciousness.
Triggers activate undesirable feelings like anger, fear, hurt, sadness etc. from past experiences that have been repressed. You may be triggered by a person, a situation, song, smell, color, etc. For instance, when triggered by anger you may deflect your feelings and blame another or the situation. When you react to a trigger, it is a fear-based reaction and fear has a low vibrational frequency. Most often people react in anger even if what they feel is fear; they do this to protect themselves from feeling hurt. For most people anger becomes the primary defense mechanism. It is necessary to move anger (and other negative emotions), a dense energy out of your physical and emotional body in order to attract positive experiences.
How the mind works
The mind is divided into three parts: conscious, subconscious, and unconscious mind.
The conscious mind is responsible for critical, analytical, and logical thinking. It stores temporary memory. The subconscious mind is where all of our emotions, beliefs, memories, and experiences are stored, this is our emotional mind. The unconscious mind is responsible for our behaviors and our body’s automatic responses which are influenced by the subconscious and unconscious mind. In order to resolve some of our deeper issues we need to release the ‘but’ (voice of the conscious mind) and explore what’s behind it (in the subconscious mind)
The Clearing Process
“In our journey of consciousness, we must clear the planes in ascending order: physical, emotional, mental, intellectual and spiritual” ~ John Ruskan
The clearing process begins with awareness, honesty, and openness.
It dispels the toxic emotions responsible for emotional blocks and alleviates unhealthy stress levels. It increases awareness of what you are experiencing and creates space allowing you to choose how you want to act/react to situations. This process allows you to: become mindful of your thoughts and feelings, gaining power over them; free yourself to pursue what you truly desire in life; work toward your highest potential and become the person you want to be.
The process is complete when we reach a state of acceptance, forgiveness, willingness to release and make peace with the past and ourselves (stop identifying with it).
Clearing emotional blocks involves work on all aspects of our being:
- Body – deep relaxation through breath
- Mind (conscious/intellect) – through awareness
- Emotion (subconscious/feelings) – through acceptance
- Behavior (unconscious/automatic response) – through experiencing a shift
- Spiritual (transformation) – through observing and witnessing the effects of the learning in our life
Clearing emotional blocks helps:
- Resolve past negative experiences and all (negative) associations with it
- Break unproductive habits, behaviors and beliefs
- Overcome anxiety and fear
- Transform relationships
- Stop negative thinking
- Experience mind-body connection
Make sure to come back and read my blog about how to clear your emotional blocks!